What if 5 years ago we wouldn’t have said yes to Shuang Shuang’s referral?
Where would this little one be?
Five years ago today our lives changed forever.
It was a rough start……
But after an hour (or so) of full blown thrashing around and screaming BOO (which equals NO in Chinese) this sad and angry little girl transformed into a totally different little girl.
But even though Shuang Shuang was smiling and bellying laughing now….she still needed to control the show. Her whole life, as she knew it, was turned upside down on that “gotcha” moment. She now was stuck with a red headed Mama with blue eyes and so she still needed to be in control of some thing's in her life, you could see it in her attitude even if we couldn’t understand what she was saying!
You could just tell there was an underlying distrust there.
But as she started to let her guard down she began to trust us. Step by step. Moment by moment.
Being the little sister the boys all wanted she was totally totally doted on and loved.
(I can’t get over how young the boys look!)
Upon receiving her family on October 26th, 2009 she not only received a Mama and Baba, who were instantly in love with her, but she also got 3 big brothers who thought she was the cutest thing e.v.e.r.
She liked the play phone right away and she still grabs her Daddy’s phone every night when he gets home and messes around on it. She is my “electronics” girl.
We had a special time this afternoon looking through our pictures from our trip and reminiscing. It is so hard to believe it has been 5 years since Lena became a part of our family.
In a lot of ways it seems like just yesterday. But then some days it feels like she has always been a part of us.
It has been a joy to watch her grow and gain confidence from having a family who loves her.
She now has peace. And security.
Something all children should be able to have.
Everyone tells you that Chinese kids love congee. It is a watery rice dish. So I got Lena that the first time we went out as I thought she would eat it up.
Just give me noodles mom!!!!!
And not much has changed from 2009. She LOVES her noodles.
So we had them for supper tonight and just felt so blessed that we have been called to parent this precious young lady.
Lena changed me.
She made me a better Mom.
She taught me be more compassionate and slow down and enjoy the little things of life.
She taught me that real love isn’t just a blood relation but something that is born in your heart.
She taught me that kids are resilient and that there are a lot more kids in need of forever families.
She tuaght me that even if a relationship gets off to a rocky start it can turn into something beautiful.
It is a joy and honor to have her call me Mom.
As she went to bed tonight she gave me a huge hug and told me, “Today was so special.”
Just like you sweetheart. Just like you.